Whatever you call it…March 28th, 2007 @ 7:01 am
I usually tell people the reason I started to blog was because it was a way to talk about my miscarriages and my pregnancy before we were telling people.
But that isn’t really 100% true. The real reason was this:
I’m a complainer, and I needed a secret place to complain. A place where other people wouldn’t hear me complaining and like me any less. I wanted to be able to bitch about my family, bitch about my coworkers, bitch about the people at church. Heck, even bitch about my friends and my husband.
That’s right. I was going to keep this a secret, even from The King. I thought about it for a while. I came up with what I would call it. I came up with what I would call myself and what I would call my husband. Of course I didn’t feel like it was right to not tell my husband about it. So The King was let into the secret.
I got excited about this new endeavor, even before I hit “publish” on my first post, my first post, which wasn’t that bitchy at all. But the second post, well it was a little bitchier, and towards a family member. So that was good. The third day of my blog experience just happened to land on my anniversary, so I had to post about our wedding. I was honoring The King’s wishes and not putting our faces on the blog (that would change later, of course). But then I got right back on the complaining band wagon and posted about my friends.
I think this was about the time that The King told me that he didn’t like my blog. He said I made myself out to be something I’m really not. He said I didn’t come across very nicely on it.
I started to think a little more about what I wanted to blog about. I accepted that eventually someone I knew in real life was most likely going to find my blog. And when that time came, I didn’t want that to be a horrible experience for them or me. I didn’t want to put anything out there that would come back to bite me later on.
So far none of my family or close friends have found my little corner of the internet. There is Marci, the one friend that I told about it (but she lives in a different state, so it’s safe). And of course there are the two sisters I know from high school who stumbled onto my blog. One of the sisters was in my grade and the younger one I worked with for years after graduation. I pretend they don’t read it. If I remember they read it, then I think about it too much and I get freaked out. I mean, they remember me when I looked like this:
Dad, just take the damn picture so I can get out of this stinkin’ robe and get my party on.
And even when I looked like this, for a few years in my early 20’s:
(yeah, I’m the blonde one on the left.)
I try to pretend that these two sisters don’t hate me and that they won’t forward my blog on to my dad. I mean, they know where he works and I’m pretty sure their sister sees him on a weekly basis. I also like to pretend that they won’t ever run into my ex-husband and give him the URL. (I was very happy when the younger sister told me she didn’t remember his name, or even what he looked like. Phew.)
I often wonder what will happen if anyone finds my blog. Will they even read it? I know a few of you have told me that your friends in real life don’t even read your blog. Will they immediately go searching for things I might have said about them, or pictures I might have posted? (Another reason I love the blacked out eye look.) Will they think my time spent on the internet is lame? Will they think that this site, something that I am very proud of, isn’t worthwhile?
Frema asked me a few weeks ago why my site is anonymous, why I don’t share it with my family and friends. I really didn’t have an answer for her. I mean, like I said earlier, I try to not put anything on here (anymore) that would piss people off. I try to be nice, yet truthful, about my feelings towards people in my life.
The only reason that I can think of is that I have talked about my miscarriages on here, and only a few people in real life know about them. And it’s been so long since they happened and so much has happened since then, I really wouldn’t want to have to rehash them.
But really, I guess it’s deeper than that.
This is my corner of the internet. This is where I fit. This site is mine, and I don’t have to share it with my sister or compete with my best friend. So for now, I’m not going to forward the URL to my Dad or my Grandma, or even my close friends.
Maybe I should tell one person and slowly let it spread. Maybe not.
But for now, it’s all mine. And I like it that way.
So tell me, do you keep your blog a secret? Why? And if it’s not a secret, do you wish it were?
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Debbie
said,
March 28, 2007 at 4:34 pm
I don’t really know what mine is either…I gave the address out to some of my friends, but I don’t think they read it. My family has no idea, other than my husband. And I put pictures up, but I don’t use our names, and I have no idea why. Do I think someone’s going to come and find us and steal my kids based on their names being on my blog? No. I might have to re-think this. I have no one to hide from. The real purpose of my blog is to keep a better diary of what my kids are up to on a daily basis since I’m so great at recording it otherwise (definite sarcasm there).
Frema
said,
March 28, 2007 at 4:39 pm
There are a couple of family members who check in on my blog sporadically, and one of my sisters used to be a dedicated reader, but now most of my visitors are people I’ve never met. I guess I kind of like that. I like not having to hide it but I like being able to write about things that are personal (like today) without holding my breath, wondering if this will be the day that my dad stumbles across my blog. He knows about it and stays away anyway. It’s the best of both worlds.
Of course, sometimes he does check in, and today could be the day, but the embarrassing conversation that might ensue about STD testing doesn’t bother me enough to keep posting about it. I like to think that the ultimate point of (most of) my posts are worth a few raised eyebrows. And writing really helps me to put a name on my feelings and help me see when I’m acting like a total whack job.
That said, I don’t understand why my close friends (other than Molly) don’t read it. If they had a site where they dumped their personal thoughts and feelings on a regular basis, I’d be all over that like flies on guano. If I let myself think about it too much, I’m highly insulted.
Operation Pink Herring
said,
March 28, 2007 at 4:44 pm
I didn’t keep mine a secret…. but now I sort of wish I did. At first, I was so excited that I just couldn’t help telling my family and friends about it. Sometimes I regret that my mother and my brother read my blog, because that precludes me from talking about certain “personal” issues… but most of the time, I like that they read it. They love it, because I guess families like reading about the mundane details of their loved one’s life.
I wish I hadn’t told my friends though, for two reasons. #1 — none of them read it. They think it is kind of wierd that I have a blog, and some aren’t even sure what a blog is. Which is fine, but I just wish I hadn’t told them in that case. #2 — I can’t talk about my friend’s wedding coming up next year. OMG, how I want to blog about this crazy wedding. But although she doesn’t read the site… she could. And I would not be her friend any more if she read what I really thought about this nonsense.
Only one of my friends reads it, and she found out about it on her own. It’s super fun that she reads along, because she’s up on my life without having to talk on the phone every day.
MK
said,
March 28, 2007 at 4:52 pm
It is not a complete secret, but not everyone knows. My husband a myfreinds that I blog with now and before know. I just recenetly told my bf about it, but I am not sure if she comes over. There are lots of other firends that don;t know, ny family does’t know. if they did would be fine, but I like my family being seperate from it.
Lucky
said,
March 28, 2007 at 5:00 pm
Up until just a few weeks ago, nobody in my family knew about my blog. I just shared it with my sister recently, mainly because I talk alot about her and her baby. My husband knows I have a blog, but he doesn’t care to get involved. I think he thinks we’re all just goofy. I have a mixture of people I KNOW in real life who read and a few I don’t. It’s a good mix.
Cindy
said,
March 28, 2007 at 5:18 pm
Secret.
Its my outlet and I’d rather not have people I know in real life reading about what I don’t want to tell them. For some reason its easier having internet people judging me.
Heather
said,
March 28, 2007 at 5:26 pm
My blog is not a secret but most of my friends and family members think that blogging is lame and so while they know it exists they seldom look at it. As for the rest of them, most of the time I forget that they even read until I’m telling them a story and they say.. oh yeah I read that on your blog.
dee
said,
March 28, 2007 at 5:30 pm
Mine was a big secret up until last week. I was featured in an article in the local paper and now my family all seems to know about it. I didn’t tell them, just waited to see if they actually saw the article. I’m still a little weirded out knowing that they could be reading, but at the same time it is nice to know I don’t have to hide it anymore. I enlightened Hubby a few months ago, and other than that only had two real-life friends that knew about it.
Rachel
said,
March 28, 2007 at 5:42 pm
My blog is not a secret by any means, but I don’t really talk about it. My husband knows about it and I know he reads sometimes, but he is ok, as long as I am not rehashing arguements that we’ve had or talking about private or intimate things between us, which I don’t, anymore.
My best friend knows about my blog and read sometimes. Hell, if not for my blog, she wouldn’t know anything since she doesn’t have 5 freakin minutes for me anymore. My point, back to my point. I don’t care if people I know read it, because I don’t put anything on there that I wouldn’t want them to find out or read about.
Emily
said,
March 28, 2007 at 5:45 pm
Mine is a secret from most of my family (mainly because of all the cussing and drinking references), but anyone who’s a friend on myspace can see my blog since I have a link on there. I kind of wish it was a secret because I definitely hold back my true feelings about things. At the same time, it’s nice to run into a friend at a party and they say “hey, I read that post about whatever the other day and I was laughing my ass off!” If my blog was more of a “serious” type, it would definitely be anonymous. Oh…and I run into non-blogger people who think blogging’s stupid. Whatever. I don’t care.
Erika
said,
March 28, 2007 at 6:40 pm
Sigh. I have so much to say. Especially after reading the other comments.
1 - So many people I know think blogging is lame. And I so agree with Frema…since my blog is “invite only”, there are actually QUITE A FEW people I have invited only to have my invitation ignored, and I can’t imagine why…seriously, I am so nosy and I guess I am surprised and/or hurt that not everyone is. I am dying to “stumble upon” someone I know’s blog and read all their biznass.
2 - With that said, a couple of my closest friends do read/lurk on my blog (I have invited more but they have not taken me up on it). They love it because they can keep up with me and Evan and they can hear about what’s on my mind…WITH THAT SAID:
3 - I think it kind of sucks that people read my blog without having their own. Or at least commenting. I know the whole blog world is voyeuristic, and I’m contradicting my #1 here sort of, but I think it sucks that my friends can keep up with me and I can’t keep up with them. I feel like I’m in the car having a very deep, personal conversation with them, but I’m the only one talking and they are just nodding their heads but not contributing anything. My 2 closest friends are very busy but have promised me they are going to try to make some time to blog (Dr. P recently added a photo to her profile, but she is such a perfectionist I think she may work on her first post for some time).
4 - It was the biggest deal to me when I told Jonathan and my close friends about the blog. Because at first…it’s lame. Especially if you don’t realize what a tight network all of us online friends are, how I think of many of you all the time each day like I do my “real” friends. Once you get into it you can kind of understand. But it felt so dishonest not telling Jonathan, like I was having some clandestine cyber affair with Blogger. Plus my blog used to be really boring. Hopefully it isn’t still.
paisley
said,
March 28, 2007 at 6:41 pm
The only person that knows of my blog is my husband and I doubt he reads it. He used to have one and quit over a year ago and I think a few people he knew saw that I have a blog, but based on my stat reports, I don’t think they read me or even remember about it. Thank God. I’m not hiding, but I just like that it is mine and nobody else’s. My little secret. I’m not that interesting and don’t wax poetic, but I enjoy my “blends” and the whole experience very much.
Stacey
said,
March 28, 2007 at 7:28 pm
My blog is not a secret … but I wish I had kept it to myself.
Several people I work with blog, and I let it slip that I had one, so co-workers know. That means I don’t blog about work. At all.
My mother asked me a year or so ago what this “blog thing” is, and so I showed her mine. Oops. So, I don’t blog about how my she has lost her mind and is dating a man I truly loathe.
I’m single and have dated several guys in the last 2 1/2 years that I’ve had my blog. Two of those guys, including my current boyfriend, have known about my blog. … That was a huge mistake because blogging about relationship issues is really not an option now.
If I had it to do all over again, I’d never tell a soul. Then, my blog would be much funnier, and probably a heckuva lot more interesting!
Kyleen
said,
March 28, 2007 at 7:35 pm
My family knows I have a blog - but since I moved over to vox and didn’t invite them they can’t read what I write - which I feel gives me more freedom, as I sometimes have to vent on there about them. My few close friends know about my blog and can read it on there. I use my blog as a way to vent or let folks know what is going on because most of my friends, well lets say all the close ones, live 1 to 2 hours away from me.
If I had to do this over again though I don’t think I’d tell anyone, that way it’d be alot more interesting!
Carrisa
said,
March 28, 2007 at 7:40 pm
Once upon a time I sent out the link to my blog to all of my family in a mass email… and then I forgot that I had done that. So then I blogged about this really awful Christmas sweater my grandma had given my sister and well… she read it. And I died.
But other than that, I’m pretty open to sharing the fact that I have a blog. My husband doesn’t read it though, but that’s because he’s mean. My sister has my blog set as her homepage cuz she loves me so. My mother knows it exists but she does not read it. She would probably die of a heart attack if she did. And she would have to rebuke just about everything I type.
Plus I have an anonymous blog that no one knows about. Except God. He knows everything.
Christar
said,
March 28, 2007 at 7:49 pm
My blog isn’t a secret. My boyfriend actually started my blog for me. He knows I like to write, but don’t do it nearly enough as I should or as much as I want to, so he started it for me. He also has his own blog.
I totally regret not having my blog a secret. I can definitely blog about people and the way I feel about them, who I know for certain don’t read it. IE, my cousin who’s married a loser and having a baby at 19. But a lot of feelings and frustrations I have in my life, I CAN’T express on my blog because I KNOW those people who are the cause and root of my frustrations DO read it. I’ve already been repremanded, so to speak, a few times for writing certain things on my blog that someone gets upset over. Well, excuse me, but it’s it MY blog? Shouldn’t I be able to write and express myself how I’d like?
So, yes, I do regret to a point that I didn’t keep it a secret. Sometimes I wish I could post something and have only certain people be able to read it. You know? Like putting a password on it, and giving only the people I want to read it the password. I’d love that because then I could truly express myself and how I feel.
Christar
said,
March 28, 2007 at 7:52 pm
Oh, and I forgot to add, I wish I could have done my blog like you did. Only have my boyfriend and my best friend know and that’s IT (well, besides Brittany of course) and have them keep it a secret from everyone else. That would have been perfect and ideal for me.
anniem
said,
March 28, 2007 at 8:06 pm
My situation is strange. My family knows I have a blog but they know it is my way of expressing. I think all of them have asked for the address to which I’ve declined. I tell them it is very cheap therapy. In the past few months my sister has figured out my little “secret” and it has kind of ruined things for me. I definately have to sensor more and it stinks, at least until my new place is up and running, muhahhahaa.
Operation Pink Herring
said,
March 28, 2007 at 8:43 pm
Isabel, I heart you for starting this discussion! I love hearing what other people have to say on the secrecy issue. Erika pretty much said EVERYTHING I meant to say, but better. And I’m cringing for Carissa over the Christmas sweater fiasco. OOPS!
Margarita
said,
March 28, 2007 at 8:56 pm
Here’s MY situation. I got a blog. I whored it out. I didn’t make it private AT ALL. My 2 “best friends” read it, read the things I wrote about our “friendship”,PRINTED MY ENTIRE BLOG, and left it, along with a “you can’t be our friend anymore” note, in my MAILBOX. Lame? Yes. I was devastated that after reading my most intimate thoughts about our “friendship”, they would just shit on me rather than confront me about it. Meh, their loss.
I still whore my blog out, I’m just not as open and raw as I used to be or as I am in person. I have an “anonymous” blog for that. bwaaaaahahahahaaaaaaa!
Margarita
said,
March 28, 2007 at 8:59 pm
OH! And as far as the folks that read my blog that I KNOW read my blog? My momma, my 4 BFF’s (fellow bloggers), my childhood BFF, my babysitter, and I’m beginning to suspect that my step-mother has found it as well. But again…if I ever need to talk smack about any of the above? I just talk it on my “other” blog.
Jill
said,
March 28, 2007 at 9:33 pm
Maybe I will head down the hill from my house to your father’s work and let him know. No, I really wouldn’t do that. I wouldn’t say anything to your family if I was to ever see them. I haven’t told my oldest sister that I have even been talking to you, because she would tell your dad. I always thought you were great in high school, work and now so there isn’t anything to freak out about.
Molly
said,
March 28, 2007 at 9:48 pm
Frema used guano in a sentence. Does she rock the world, or what?
My blog is no secret. When I started it I told my family, inlaws and friends, mostly because I thought I would just be posting pictures of the kids. Sometimes I think it holds me back from saying the things I could really say (with gusto!) and other times I think it just plain keeps me honest.
I think in some ways blogging and letting family members read my real thoughts (like what’s going on right now) is much easier than telling them in person. I was raised in a family where we don’t talk about our feelings much, but my writing has opened this up a bit for us.
I think you do a wonderful job with your blog. I can’t wait to meet you in person. :o)
ramblingmuse
said,
March 28, 2007 at 9:59 pm
My blog is a total secret, even to me. I don’t use real names at all.
Why were you posing in the grocery store?
Oh, and your prom post was hilarious. What happened to Lance and “that girl”?
That Chick
said,
March 28, 2007 at 10:02 pm
My online friends know about my blog and I did give the address to my little sister, whom I adore. It’s funny that you brought this up actually, because while I was visiting my parents last week, my sister sat down at their computer and pulled up my blog and I almost shat myself. Because I didn’t want my parents reading it! LOL. I’m THIRTY-ONE years old and I didn’t want them reading it!
So yeah. I totally get what you are saying. I need a place to whine and complain and not have someone tell me I have nothing to complain about or how lucky I am.
Heather B.
said,
March 28, 2007 at 10:14 pm
I started blogging purely out of boredom and to keep updates for my family and friends. So most of them know of course. But then something happened where I guess other people can read your blog, which is CRAZY I know, yet very true. So there are still things that are off limits like family and work of course, but really everything in my life is fair game.
Funny story though: My father about a year ago discovered google so he googled me of course. He had no idea about the blog because he isn’t a computer person. So when he called and said “what’s this shit you’ve got on the computer here” I almost died. Like had a heart attack. Then he complimented photos I had taken on a previous post and was all excited about those that he forgot that I had even mentioned drinking myself into a stupor. So it was all good.
Elaine
said,
March 29, 2007 at 12:30 am
I usually just lurk, but I wanted to comment about your post. I really wish my blog was more secret (making up names, etc) - everyone knows about it (including, I think, my husband’s ex wife) so now I have to keep it a little nicer than I’d really like. I’d really love to just tear up some people, but they’re readers. It is helpful to not have to tell everyone everything.
BTW, I also wanted to say that I think calling your husband The King is very cool - and it took me a few weeks to get the whole King Friday thing (duh, like the King of the Land of Make Believe!)
Britt
said,
March 29, 2007 at 12:32 am
When I started my blog, I e-mailed my family and friends and invited them to read, but only like 2 people cared.
My best friends in the world don’t give a crap about my blog. It’s like a whole other life of min that they don’t care exists. It used to bother me, but now I don’t care.
I actually like having the risk of family members reading because that way I won’t say anything I’ll regret. I know that most people use blogs as an outlet to realease frusterations and such, but if I did that, I would have things on my mind all the time that I should just get over.
Bunny
said,
March 29, 2007 at 1:08 am
Hmmm. Mine has never been secret. It started as a family blog, to show off pictures of my babies. It has become a place where I can write about more interesting things and about who I am as a mother. But, knowing that my parents and others read, I do not curse, I do not write about my relationships with my parents or other real-lifers. I find that it kind of keeps me more honest…I only write what they can read and if it needs to be written about badly enough they can read it too. But I do censor myself. There is so much more I could write if it was just me and The Internet. And I could say fuck.
Wendy
said,
March 29, 2007 at 1:48 am
I initially started my blog while I was pregnant to keep out of state family and friends updated! Then I slowly began to meet other bloggers! I do wish that my blog was private sometimes! I would love to be able to complain about the in-laws sometimes:)
sbukophile
said,
March 29, 2007 at 1:53 am
Great discussion! I chose anonymous but did tell a lot of people I know, but for family members only my sister. I did tell some of husband’s friends and he didn’t like that very much. Rather than get upset with me for it, he’s decided he doesn’t want to read it, he says it’s my thing.
I don’t think the friends I sent to read it much (except if I send an email saying check out my blog because of new kittens). I’ve sort of found myself toning things down though and considering starting a totally anonymous blog soon–I do too much self-editing to the point where I think I’m not shining because of it, I think I’m boring. I think I want to complain more.
What I also think about is that where I work would be too obvious if I started to write anything about it (and even anonymously could be too easy to figure out it was me). Another thing is my dad is sort of a minor (very minor) “celebrity” of sorts–and I kind of grew up with people in my hometown always labeling me as ______’s daughter. I didn’t like that. So I really like my privacy now. I want to choose when to share! I have so far avoided stories about my dad and family, though when I started the blog, thought I might share those stories, but pretty much changed my mind when I decided to give the url to so many people. Again, even if I do it anonymously on another blog, some of the details about my dad’s minor celebrity would make it hard to hide that it’s me, and he’d probably end up finding out. Both my parents are quite computer-savvy.
velocibadgergirl
said,
March 29, 2007 at 12:38 pm
Mine isn’t secret, in that most of my friends know about it.
My family doesn’t really know, but that’s because my parents don’t have internet access and probably won’t ever get it.
I don’t post anything super personal on mine, just in case…and I try to be careful to preserve a bit of anonymity, just because it would really REALLY weird me out if someone from work Googled me and found it. I don’t talk about work on my blog, but it would still weird me out.
Frema
said,
March 29, 2007 at 1:54 pm
Oh my gosh, Elaine, I never got “King Friday” as an actual name until you pointed it out! I am so dense.
CPA Mom
said,
March 29, 2007 at 4:44 pm
I started out like you. It was going to be totally private. But it started to bug me - keeping a big part of my life from my husband so I told him. There’s nothing I moan about that I don’t already moan about to him anyway.
I’ve told a few people, friends and relatives, it helps them keep up with us and the kids without me having to write or call (gads! the phone!) anyone.
I keep it pass-coded to keep out a vicious troll and also my EVVILLL family members.
janet
said,
March 29, 2007 at 6:36 pm
Hi! I’m a little late here, whoops!
Because I apparently can’t keep my mouth shut, and apparently neither can my friends/family, I basically think half my readers are people I know. My family and best friends read regularly, so I really don’t talk about anything private. Sometimes this bothers me, but only on occasion, and the good outweighs the bad.
It’s only weird when people I know only peripherally read it. Like when my high school boyf commented on a post about my wedding. Or when I found out some guy I know of (as in, i dont KNOW him, i know OF him) read my blog and later he interviewed husband for a job (that he didn’t get - could it have been my fault?). Like it’s fine if someone I know reads it, but I want to at least KNOW they are reading it. Not just lurking. That is just weird.
Becky..Absent Minded Housewife
said,
March 30, 2007 at 4:40 am
I don’t read…I ooh at the pretty pictures.
I’m fairly sure two ex boyfriends read mine. I know my husband’s ex girlfriend reads mine.
A man I was once friends with reads it. I say once because a two years back, after several years of friendship, he decided to let me know that I was going to be the avenue he’d use to cheat on his wife. He thinks he lurks.
I’ve had several come read following links from some alumni sites you might be aware of.
Some of my husband’s students and their parents read my blog.
Basically I decided anonymity wasn’t a great big deal to me. My name is right on the thing. However, I don’t blog anything that I won’t say right to a person’s face. I have an agreement with my husband that I won’t discuss his sex moves in detail. I blog as an avenue to selling shiny panties and pimp my tubal ligation photos.
I have no idea who your first husband is…so you’re safe there. I didn’t even have your Dad as a teacher, haven’t seen him for fifteen years, lol.
angela
said,
March 31, 2007 at 4:03 pm
Wow, this obviously struck a chord with a lot of people. When I first started my blog, I didn’t know whether I’d tell everyone about it or not. I figured in this day and age, it’s possible for anyone to actually stumble upon it, so either way I would never write anything that I wouldn’t want them to read. I figured since I’d be censoring myself in this way anyway, I may as well tell them all about it and have real live readers.
I don’t really know how many people in real life actually continue to read it on a regular basis. I kind of assume they all don’t. But then when we are chatting in person, sometimes they’ll reference something I said in a post and I’ll find out they really do.
Oh yeah, and my mom is a teacher, and I think she’s told a lot of the other teachers at my old grade school about it. She even told my old grade school principal. Now whatever I write about, it’s in the back of my mind that THEY will read it. Yikes. I just try not to think about that much.
Fraulein N
said,
April 2, 2007 at 1:09 pm
Only the husband knows about my blog, and that’s only because I felt like I kind of had to tell him about it when I first started. And yeah, sometimes I kind of wish I hadn’t.
As much as I bitch on my blog, I’ve never said anything really incriminating or hurtful about someone I know “in real life.” Maybe that’s because I know there’s the possibility that someone could stumble across it, and I’d really like to avoid any extra unpleasantness if/when that happenes.
hola, isabel » He really does make the world a better place (and yes, friends in real life found my blog)
said,
April 10, 2007 at 6:48 pm
[...] (And also, her and her husband found my blog. Found it! Mere days after writing this post. I will, from now on, just pretend they don’t read it. But only if they promise to not bring up the time The King and I vacationed at a nudist beach at church this Sunday.) [...]
Marriage-101
said,
April 12, 2007 at 6:45 pm
Although I’ve met a couple of bloggers as a result of my blog and now consider them friends, only my husband and one ex-friend know about it. I used to have a blog that everyone - including my mom, my grandparents, my boss, my aunt, my friends - EVERYONE - read and it really limited me to the things I could talk about. I tried to forget that they read it, but that didn’t work, because they would comment. So I started Marriage-101 to talk about my life, but in a more personal way. If something is bothering me, I want to write about it. I want people to empathize with me and vice versa. I want to be “real” on here. But I also don’t want to hurt people, so I don’t use real names. I only recently started posting pictures of us by linking to my Flickr account and there are still days I think about taking it down. I’ll continue to keep it a secret, for as long as I can.
Dodi
said,
May 7, 2007 at 2:04 pm
My blog was completely secret for a while. Then a couple of neighborhood friends found out about it. No one I really wouldn’t want to read it I suppose. My family doesn’t know about it - - and my husband knows I “blog”, but has never asked me anything about my blog or where to find it.
Maybe I’m just not that interesting??