King Friday - now with less nitpickingJanuary 26th, 2007 @ 5:01 am
I get lots of junk emails. They even started to come to my work email at my last job. My co-worker and I would laugh when they came in (he got them too) about possibly investing all of our 401k money in the next big stock “runner”, or a pile of prescription meds big enough to stop a truck. It used to be lots of porn emails, but I think that porn finally got smart and decided that nude pictures on the internet wasn’t really something that needed to be advertised to be sold. They kinda sell themselves through the whole “your first one’s free” policy I think. Maybe the drug emailers should try the same approach.
Anyway, I got a junk email from a semi-reliable source the other day that said in the subject line, something to the tune of “What makes a marriage last.” Since I’m always interested in avoiding divorce at all costs, I bit and opened the message.
It was clearly written by a female since when I opened it I noticed words and not just an image of two people screwing or the single simple message “Hump all the time”. In fact, after reading it, I realized that it never once mentioned intimacy, so clearly, not taking all involved parties’ opinion into consideration.
What it did say was don’t nitpick. And that struck me as a little odd since its usually the wife that does the ‘nitpicking’ in the team. “Pick up after yourself.” “Don’t slam the door.” “Quit farting on me.” Generally not the phrases that come out of the husband’s mouth.
I am the nitpicker in our relationship. I’ll admit, it drives me crazy to hear the microwave door slam and to see someone step around huge messes or a filthy floor. And I probably should spend less time griping about it, according to the article. Silence rarely evokes change though, so I tend to
voice my thoughts rather than shut up.
I’m trying to reinvent The King this year. He needs to be a happier and more easy going person. He wants the people he is around to benefit from his change. He wants what is good for the team. (Okay, he wants to get it on like 4 or 5 times a week too, but that and unicorns are simply fantasy.)
So I’ll take the advice from the email and give it a shot. We’ll see how it goes. Its not going to be easy, but if it works, I’ll write a book or something.
-kk
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Not to take away from The King trying to be a better person, as I’m all for that. But check out my other blog for my New Thing for this week.
The King
That Chick Over There
said,
January 26, 2007 at 1:56 pm
Quit farting on me! Yes!
Also, quit hogging all the damn covers on the bed and spitting in the sink.
That Chick Over There
said,
January 26, 2007 at 1:57 pm
Sorry. Did that sound bitter? My bad.
Alison
said,
January 26, 2007 at 2:55 pm
As a former nitpicker myself I can tell you the value of giving up on a few of those things that bug you. Does my husband push in the drawers on his dresser after years of me asking? No. But the stress it was causing me to constantly remind him wasn’t worth the reward. Figure out what its worth your time to nitpick, and just give up on the rest I say.
Becky..Absent Minded Housewife
said,
January 26, 2007 at 5:03 pm
Love me, love me farting on you…
Uh, not you specifically.
Rachel
said,
January 26, 2007 at 6:25 pm
I think this is good advice.
Jennifer
said,
January 26, 2007 at 6:43 pm
I hope that new job you just got is as a marriage counselor. Good advice.
I’m the nitpicker, and I’m trying to learn to let it go. I think the real trick is not to just stop nagging, but to actually stop thinking about whatever it is that bugs you. Because getting pissed off and just not saying anything about it? Bad idea.
Carrisa
said,
January 26, 2007 at 7:10 pm
Well the first step is admitting you have a problem.
And also admitting that sex 4-5 times a week is a fantasy is also good.
Emily
said,
January 26, 2007 at 8:43 pm
I feel your pain. It is sooo hard to bite my lip! But….what I nitpick about is important, right? Well, I think so anyways. See why this is going to be hard for me?
Jill
said,
January 26, 2007 at 11:54 pm
4 or 5 times a week is too much to ask?? Oh, Isabel, your man is practically begging for it!! Try 4 or 5 times on the weekends, then you don’t have to worry about it during the week! Maybe that is just my fantasy, to actually sleep during the week.
Durga
said,
January 27, 2007 at 3:50 pm
King,
I assume what you are trying to tell us is that Isabel puts up with a whole lot of crap you throw her way, huh?
hahaha
How is the new job going?
Lindsey
said,
January 28, 2007 at 4:04 pm
I am the nitpicker, but if I don’t say anything the anger just builds! I like things to be picked up and look nice and my significant other could care less about that. It’s hard being me.
Frema
said,
January 29, 2007 at 2:27 am
“Quit farting on me” is not just a line wives say. Just ask my husband. Oops. But I never said he married a lady.
Also, if all married couples were getting it on five times a week, there’d be a lot less divorce.