What is an appropriate “first time hanging out” activity anyway?July 10th, 2006 @ 11:16 am
Isabel: We should invite that new couple from Church over tonight to swim in our pool.
The King: That really isn’t a “first time hanging out” sort of activity.
Isabel: Why not?
The King: They might not be comfortable hanging out with strangers in their bathing suits. Plus, I think they’re really young. They might not want to be friends with us old folks.
Isabel: But come on, we need to do fun things with friends. And they are young. Which means you’ll get to see the 19 year old wife in her bathing suit. That’s got to entice you.
The King: Not really. I’ve got this thing called the Interweb where I can see all sorts of 19 year old girls in less than their bathing suits. Maybe you’ve heard of it?
So this is the world we live in? Where the thought of a 19 year old in her bathing suit can’t even convince my husband to be social?
We’re getting too old to make new friends.
Churchy Stuff · The King
Liberal Banana
said,
July 10, 2006 at 6:41 pm
I have to agree with the hubby - I don’t think I’d want to hang out in front of brand new friends either. But you’re definitely not too old to make new friends! Just have them over for dinner or something instead!
Sarah
said,
July 10, 2006 at 7:01 pm
I don’t know about the pool either…but I’m on your side! What about dinner? Or, if you don’t feel like cooking, mini golf or botanical gardens or something. Do you even have those things in Seattle?
Erika
said,
July 10, 2006 at 7:07 pm
GOD THE DREADED COUPLE DATES. DO THEY LIKE US? DO THEY THINK WE’RE DESPERATE? SHOULD WE MAKE THE NEXT MOVE? I think the pool is a good idea because it gives you something to focus on other than making conversation (WHAT DO WE HAVE IN COMMON?!)
Durga
said,
July 10, 2006 at 7:36 pm
You guys are so funny!
I think the pool is a great first-meet/hangout activity. Maybe even a DVDmovie and dessert night or something.
This new family moved into our church recently and the dad is white Aussie , the mum is Japanese and the 3 kids (aged 1.5, 3, 5) are soooooooooooooooooooooooo cute!!! So I got my husband to ask them over to dinner at our house. They came over it was a lot of fun, the kids were so well behaved, then Michael introduced them to video games. The kids didnt want to go home that night and cried all the way to the car and apparantly also to bed and the day after.
They now avoid us! Michael says that it might have something to do with the video games coz the dad said that they are anti-TV / video games in their home. I feel realy bad. But I so LOVE those kids!!!
Hilary
said,
July 10, 2006 at 9:16 pm
I’m sorry, did you say 19 years old and wife in the same sentence?
I know people get married young and I’m NOT judging and I wish them all the best….just wow!
Britt
said,
July 10, 2006 at 9:56 pm
I love making new church friends. They never seem to last, though. Do you think it’s me????
Heather
said,
July 11, 2006 at 12:19 am
My husband has no idea how to use the internet!!
Heather
said,
July 11, 2006 at 12:21 am
I haven’t rushed to show him!!
Ella
said,
July 11, 2006 at 12:47 am
I don’t know… pool as a first date sounds weird to me. I wouldn’t want to go because I wouldn’t want to be in my bathing suit in front of you on a first date - maybe the park, that sounds fun and everyone gets to keep their clothes on.
Lisa B
said,
July 11, 2006 at 12:55 am
Ok. Now I really want my hubby to get us some tickets to Seattle so we can all hang out. And yeah, we probably wouldn’t go to the pool with ya’ll either. Not unless you don’t mind backhair (his. Gah) and cellulte (mine, double gah.)
HollowSquirrel
said,
July 11, 2006 at 12:57 am
I’d have to agree with The King– pool as first date may be intimidating to them. DVD/dessert, as Durga suggested, may be fun? Or a game night? Or am I just a geek? Of course, we had some “old” friends over for game/dessert night on Saturday, and I kind of got in a spat with my uber-competitive friend…so, just make sure it’s a friendly game.
Nancy
said,
July 11, 2006 at 1:26 am
I actually ended up doing a first playdate at the pool with another mom from my daughter’s class. I was self-conscious at first, but I think it was a little easier meeting on neutral ground than getting together at one person’s house or another. Of course there was a little awkwardness with the initial disrobing, but it all worked out well — and now we are good friends. But I can see how a couples pool date might be a little different.
janet
said,
July 11, 2006 at 1:44 am
Oh man if only I lived in Seattle we could have couples dates! I would be totally cool with going to the pool, but I guess it is a little unconventional for a “first date.” Can you combine pool time with a bbq or something else?
reesh
said,
July 11, 2006 at 3:25 am
Man, meeting new people is totally just like the dating scene. I mean I suppose it is dating just that you’re not waiting to kiss, well unless you’re into that, which is fine if you are but I’m getting off track. We too have been “dating” couples with children the same age as Lily and yes it’s hard to think of where to go sometimes. The park for a picnic has been our favourtie date so far. I personally have nothing against the pool as a first date though.
Carrie
said,
July 11, 2006 at 3:35 am
I know, new friends = awful and HARD. I haven’t made many (really ANY) here in Columbus GA, and we are about to move AGAIN anyway, so whats the point. My hubby is totally anti-social, and Isabella doesn’t really know how to share and is more interested in finding things on the floor and eating them than making friends.
I see nothing wrong with the pool thing though, our new house has a pool and I fully intend on using it as a friend-bribe.
DeAnn
said,
July 11, 2006 at 7:39 am
You’re never too old to make friends. I would totally be your friend if I lived there (and I kind of consider myself that already! I’m crazy.)
Also, I think he’s right about not swimming on a first hanging out day. I would feel weird in my bathing suit with “new” friends. I don’t know… It’s just a little intimate for some people.
Christar
said,
July 11, 2006 at 12:41 pm
I already feel too old to make new friends sometimes. My boyfriend and I don’t really go out and do too much, so sometimes I feel like we’re old, and we’re both in our early twenties.
goldmoon
said,
July 11, 2006 at 3:26 pm
You’ve got the same situation going on as we do. I think we need more friends, the husband doesn’t. Damn those men.
Heather B.
said,
July 11, 2006 at 5:10 pm
Dessert and wine? (fine, or coffee) Not much of commitment and no one has to worry about their bikini line.
Nap Queen
said,
July 12, 2006 at 1:23 am
Dinner, definitely dinner or coffee and dessert. Hell, I barely get into my bathing suit alone.
hola, isabel »
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